Monday, August 25, 2014

The Cost of Adoption

Because we are going to be fundraising this time around for our adoption expenses, we wanted to be totally transparent with you and let you in on the numbers.  We are using Lifeline Children's Services based out of Birmingham, Alabama as our adoption agency (we used them last time too) and these figures come straight from our adoption binder we received from them.  My hope is this will give you a glimpse of what it costs to adopt internationally so as you hear of others doing the same thing you will have a better understanding of what this involves.

Costs Description Due Date
$250 Application fee
$2901.25 1st China program fee Acceptance of application
$230 Required marriage computer survey 1 – 3 months
$250 Hague home study review 2 – 4 months
$2901.25 2nd China program fee Completion of home study
$890 I-800A fees 3 – 4 months
$579 Document certification and authentication 4 – 6 months
$2901.25 3rd China program fee Dossier to China
$500-$1190 China log in fee 5 – 7 months
$140- $600 China matching fee At time of matching
$240 Passports (fee for 2 adults only) Prior ot travel
$200 Crossings training 6 – 12 months
$2901.25 4th China program fee Receipt of LOA
$350 Visa fee (for 2 adults only) Receipt of LOA
$4800 International flight (for 2 people only) Time of travel
$10000-$11500 Pre-paid travel expenses (based on 2 adults only—in country flights, guide, tips, hotel, breakfasts, etc) Time of travel
$2875 In country expenses (spending money, lunches and dinners, orphanage visit, etc) Time of travel
$530 Re-adoption fee After child comes home


**Note that these are just estimates and are based on 2 adults traveling and the child being able to sit in the lap on the plane (we will need 4 airline tickets because Olivia will be going with us to China and the child we bring home will be too old to sit in our lap).  

So, what are we doing to help cover these expenses?  Here are a few things we are currently doing to help cover the adoption expense (I am sure we will be adding to this list as work our way through the adoption process too).
  • We are applying for grants
  • We are willing to empty out our savings
  • We are cutting expenses (pre-paid cell phone plan, got rid of cable, eating out less and doing the envelope system with our money each month--think Dave Ramsey)
  • We are selling things on eBay, Amazon and Craigslist
  • We are fundraising

Tuesday, August 5, 2014

Back to China

For the last several years, we have talked about going back to China to adopt again.  It is hard to go somewhere like that and see all the things we saw and not go back.  I still see the faces of those children in mismatched clothes at Olivia’s orphanage.  I still remember as if it were yesterday how they crowded around us as soon as we entered the children’s wing of the orphanage—how they came up to us with outstretched arms wanting us (strangers that were not Chinese and did not speak their language) to pick them up and hold them.  It didn’t matter that some were almost as tall as me.  They just wanted to be held.  We probably picked up every child in that orphanage that day and held each one for a short time as we took our tour.  It was summer there when we went and it was HOT.  The orphanage had no air conditioning for the children (the administrative offices had A/C though) and the kids tried to find some relief by hanging out various body parts through the bars in the open windows.  The cribs were all metal with just a piece of plywood covered by a blanket to lie on, but no mattress.  We were allowed to take a couple of Olivia’s friends from the orphanage out to lunch with us along with the director and a couple of the workers.  I felt so bad leaving the orphanage later that afternoon.  Several of the children (including the ones we took to lunch with us) thought they were leaving with us too just like Olivia and they began crying when they were told they could not go.  I think of Olivia’s best friend there often—she was several years older than Olivia and took care of Olivia as if she were her own.  She helped her walk, helped feed her, played with her and called her Nan Nan.  I wonder what she thought in the days after Olivia left, came back to visit the orphanage with her new family and left again only this time for good.  I pray she has found her forever family too. 

We knew we had to go back.  We always knew it would happen, but never really put a timeline on it.  We were always waiting until we had saved up the money to afford it again or until after Olivia’s next cleft lip and palate surgery or until we had moved to a larger home with more space or….

 Well, we moved to a larger home and although Olivia still has another cleft lip and palate surgery looming over us early next year and although we still don’t have the money saved up for this next adoption, we just know it is time. 

The paperwork has been started and we are about ½ through our home study now.  We are going through the special needs program again in China and hope to be matched with a girl between the ages of 3 to 5 in the next 12 to 18 months.  We are excited, humbled, but also a little anxious to see how God is going to work out all the details for us this time around.